the shadi series: jehz
a cousin of mine (lets call her K) is about to get married. Yayy! im really happy for her and her fiance and hope good things come their way.
This is a new series i'll be doing writing on how the whole experience is going. Im a little late here, since the experience started off with the rishta followed by mangni followed by setting the dates followed by selecting the shadi venues followed by the dates and finally the cards. That part, i may write up on later.. but now.. lets start with whats on hand.
Jehz!! Dowry! Every daughters dream and a fathers nightmare(?). Even though im very against the whole dowry system (and thank goodness my mom is with me) each family does have its own traditions regarding it. For K's parents, it was all they thought about during the last couple of decades apparently. Even K's nani was amassing a collection to send her off with on her wedding day as well ever since K was born. This i found out while we were packing up the stuff and the related stories about each item came up.
I was called in to assist in packing, transfer and very soon setup of the dowry from K's mehka to her susral. Heres an (approx) list of what it consists off (apart from jewellery)..
Television set, DVD player, microwave oven, toaster oven, hostess tray, kitchen utensils, 5 dinner sets (4 were imported), juicers/blenders and such, bedroom set (double bed, side tables, cupboard, dressing table).. and about 5 suitcases full of clothes, shoes and other necessities.
It took us about 5 hours to pack it all up.. and a pickup truck to transport it.. there was so much of it. Now im sure you must be thinking, dowrys nowadays consist of cars and banglows and such... but mine is a middle-class family, and in our circles, this is considered the height.
Even though to me, it looked like a waste... since i think the basic necessities of life are supposed to be provided by the husband and not the father.. yet, i have no objections if they wish to do it for their daughter.
Now the next task is to go and set it all up at the susral. Stay tuned for "protocol for celebrating the fiances birthday" followed by "mehndi preparation: dance sequences"
This is a new series i'll be doing writing on how the whole experience is going. Im a little late here, since the experience started off with the rishta followed by mangni followed by setting the dates followed by selecting the shadi venues followed by the dates and finally the cards. That part, i may write up on later.. but now.. lets start with whats on hand.
Jehz!! Dowry! Every daughters dream and a fathers nightmare(?). Even though im very against the whole dowry system (and thank goodness my mom is with me) each family does have its own traditions regarding it. For K's parents, it was all they thought about during the last couple of decades apparently. Even K's nani was amassing a collection to send her off with on her wedding day as well ever since K was born. This i found out while we were packing up the stuff and the related stories about each item came up.
I was called in to assist in packing, transfer and very soon setup of the dowry from K's mehka to her susral. Heres an (approx) list of what it consists off (apart from jewellery)..
Television set, DVD player, microwave oven, toaster oven, hostess tray, kitchen utensils, 5 dinner sets (4 were imported), juicers/blenders and such, bedroom set (double bed, side tables, cupboard, dressing table).. and about 5 suitcases full of clothes, shoes and other necessities.
It took us about 5 hours to pack it all up.. and a pickup truck to transport it.. there was so much of it. Now im sure you must be thinking, dowrys nowadays consist of cars and banglows and such... but mine is a middle-class family, and in our circles, this is considered the height.
Even though to me, it looked like a waste... since i think the basic necessities of life are supposed to be provided by the husband and not the father.. yet, i have no objections if they wish to do it for their daughter.
Now the next task is to go and set it all up at the susral. Stay tuned for "protocol for celebrating the fiances birthday" followed by "mehndi preparation: dance sequences"
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